Mr. Woodcock

We watched the DVD "Mr. Woodcock."

Synopsis

During their childhood, John Farley (Seann William Scott) and many of his classmates were tormented by their sadistic gym teacher, Mr. Jasper Woodcock (Billy Bob Thornton). Since then, things have turned out quite well for John, who has gone on to become a successful self-help author and motivational speaker about "letting go", inspired by his own experiences. But when John's hometown offers him an award, he decides to return home and face his unpleasant memories. His manager initially rejects it as too trivial without consulting Farley, but Farley is pleased by the award and returns to Nebraska to receive it. When John returns home he is horrified to find that Woodcock is now dating his widowed mother Beverly (Susan Sarandon), and the two become engaged shortly after. To make matters worse, Mr. Woodcock is being awarded for his years of educating children. Mr. Woodcock's behavior toward Farley is still unpleasant. John tries to break up the engagement to save both himself and his mother. To that end, he decides to beat Mr. Woodcock at his own game. He spends the whole day with him, going everywhere with him. First, they visit a gym, where, after a rather long speech, Mr. Woodcock berates him for constantly talking. The two then go on treadmills, where John attempts to run faster than Mr. Woodcock, and is launched into a set of weights behind him. They then go into a retirement home where John meets Mr. Woodcock's father, a rude wheelchair-bound man. Mr. Woodcock makes the elderly people in the pool run in place, and take laps. He then spots Pulumbo, a wheelchair-bound man sitting in the corner of the room, not swimming in the pool, and decides to push him in. John, thinking he is unable to swim, tries to dive in and save him, but is knocked out by the man (who apparently can swim), and has to be given mouth-to-mouth resuscitation. When he gets home, his old classmate and that man's younger brother are there (with the boy having a black eye), with fake evidence of Mr. Woodcock's abuse, consisting of the boy begging an off-camera man he claims to be Mr. Woodcock not to do something, and is immediately hit in the head with a folded up chair. When Mr. Woodcock and Beverly come home, the fake evidence immediately cuts to a scene of the man driving in his truck, ranting about how hot Farley's mom is, wishing he could motorboat her breasts. He tries to rewind the tape, but only ends up repeating parts of his rant, for which he's ejected from the house by Mr. Woodcock. At the carnival, Woodcock is better at various games, though John wins in an eating contest, but not before embarrassing himself in front of the crowd. Irritated, he meets up with his old classmate, who says that he has found Mr. Woodcock's ex-wife, whom Mr. Woodcock's father had mentioned earlier. She tells John that they divorced because of infidelity; the reason she had not done that earlier was the great sex with Mr. Woodcock, once he made her black out from pleasure, and made her speak Portuguese, despite having no knowledge of the language. John, thinking Mr. Woodcock is cheating on his mother, decides to expose it to his mom, and he and his classmate go to Mr. Woodcock's house. As they are trying to find evidence, Mr. Woodcock comes up the stairs, forcing them to hide. As soon as Mr. Woodcock comes in, John's mom comes in as well, and they have sex on the bed (making her speak a phrase in Portuguese in the proccess) as John suffers underneath them. With excitement, his friend opens the shutters and records the whole scene. Next they are at the award ceremony for Woodcock. One by one people come up to the stage and praise him for the good that he has done in their life. Then John is awarded the "Corn Cob Key" and during his acceptance speech, he sums up the misery Woodcock has supposedly caused, but he makes a fool of himself. Much of his evidence is busted, as his classmate did not die as he thought and his ex-wife cheated on him, instead of visa-versa. After Woodcock threatens to beat up John, Beverly becomes so mad that she breaks up with Woodcock. The next day, John has to do a live video interview with Tyra Banks. His mother tells John that he never thought of what made her happy and always thought about himself. John runs out of his interview in the middle of it and apologizes to Woodcock. They then get into a fight that turns into them, in full costumes, wrestling. It ends with Jasper getting rushed to the hospital by John. John rushes Jasper on his gurney to his mom who is sitting atop a float on a parade. After his gurney flips over on the "one pothole in the town" his mother takes him to the hospital where John gives his blessings to his mother and tells his mother that Jasper is a very good person and molded him into what he is today. The film ends at christmas time with Jasper telling John that he read his book. Says one good thing about it, then burns it. After his next book is released, Jasper tells John that his mom is pregnant and the film closes with him saying "Just joking".

Kindness

"Kindness is a language we all understand. Even the blind can see it and the deaf can hear it." - Mother Teresa

Taken

I took my youngest son and 10 of his friends to see "Taken" at Hollywood Boulevard Theater in Woodridge. We have passes for 16 free tickets and used 12. It was an intense fast paced movie that really makes you think about sending your daughter over to Europe,

Synopsis

The seventeen year-old Kim (Maggie Grace) is the pride and joy of her father, the retired agent Bryan Mills (Liam Neeson) who left the secret service to stay near Kim in California. Kim lives with her mother Lenore (Famke Janssen) and her wealthy stepfather Stuart (Xander Berkeley) she convinces the reluctant Bryan to sign an authorization for her to travel to Paris with her friend Amanda Katie Cassidy) When they arrive, they share a cab with the stranger Peter (Nicolas Giraud) and Amanda tells him that they are alone in Paris. When Bryan succeeds in contacting his daughter, she tells that criminals have just broke in and they are kidnapped by an Albanese gang of human trafficking. Bryan promises in the phone to kill the kidnapper of his daughter and immediately travels to Paris to find Kim and chase the criminals.

The Long Fall

I finished reading "The Long Fall" by Walter Mosley.

ABOUT THE BOOK

His name is etched on the door of his Manhattan office: Leonid McGill, Private Investigator. It's a name that takes a little explaining, but he's used to it. His Dad was a communist and great-great-granddaddy was a slave master from Scotland. You know, the black man's family tree is mostly root. Whatever you see above ground is only a hint at the real story. An ex-boxer, hard drinker, in a business that trades mostly in cash and favors: McGill is an old-school P.I. working a city that's gotten fancy all around him. Fancy or not, he has always managed to get by, keep a roof over the head of his wife and kids, and still manage a little fun on the side, mostly because he's never been above taking a shady job for a quick buck. But like the city itself, McGill is turning over a new leaf and decided to go from crooked to slightly bent. New York City in the twenty-first century is a city full of secrets and still a place that reacts when you know where to poke and which string to pull. That's exactly the kind of thing Leonid McGill knows how to do. As soon as The Long Fall begins, with McGill calling in old markers and greasing NYPD palms to unearth some seemingly harmless information for a high-paying client, he learns that even in this cleaned-up city, his commitment to the straight and narrow is going to be constantly tested.

Forgetting Sarah Marshall

I watched the DVD "Forgetting Sarah Marshall."

Synopsis

Peter (Jason Segel) is a composer and a likable sad guy who's devastated when his girlfriend of five years, Sarah Marshall, (Kristen Bell) the star of a cheesy CSI-style crime show, dumps him. He weeps, he rails, he mopes. Finally, his step-brother Brian (Bill Hader) suggests Hawaii, so Peter heads for a resort on Oahu where, as he's checking in, he sees Sarah and her new beau, Aldous, (Russell Brand) a polymorphously perverse English rocker. The weeping and moping starts again, until Peter is rescued by Rachel, (Mila Kunis) a thoughtful hotel clerk who invites him to a luau and to hang out. Although he constantly runs into Sarah and Aldous, Peter starts to come alive again. Will Sarah realize what she's lost, and what about Rachel?

Delirious

I watched the DVD "Delirious."

Synopsis

The film begins with a homeless young man Toby Grace (Michael Pitt) wandering through New York City bumming for change and essentially seeking a way to survive. He accidentally bumps into celebrity-wannabe-photographer Les Galantine (Steve Buscemi) waiting outside a building for recording star K'Harma Leeds.(Alison Lohman) Toby follows Les home and asks for a warm place to sleep for the night Les agrees partly because Toby proves himself to be an honest type and also because he suggests he can work as an unpaid assistant for the photographer. Les takes Toby to a club to get pictures of K'Harma and Toby is smitten with the young female singer. Les learns that actor Chuck Sirloin (Jack Gwaltney) is getting surgery on his penis and manages to scoop the photos for a local tabloid magazine. Les takes Toby to an STD Daytime Drama Benefit and influential casting director Dana (Gina Gershon) is immediately attracted to the purity of the young man and offers to boost his career. Because of his ability to get the shots of Chuck Sirloin Les is invited to the next K'Harma concert and Toby gets pulled into K'Harma's party and ends up spending the night talking with her. K'Harma invites Toby to a party with Elvis Costello and Toby brings Les along but when Les takes photos at the party K'Harma is upset and security ejects the two men. When Les sells the photos of K'Harma to an online news site Toby goes to live with Dana who casts the homeless young man in a reality show as a homeless man and his fame is immediate causing Les to plot a revenge against the man he believes he has helped.

27 Dresses

We watched the DVD "27 Dresses."

Synopsis

Two things about Jane (Katherine Heigl) she never says no to her friends- she's been a bridesmaid 27 times and selflessly plans friends' weddings, and she's in love with her boss, George (Edward Burns) nurturing dreams of a lovely, romantic wedding of her own. She meets Kevin (James Marsden) a cynical writer who finds her attractive, and that same week her flirtatious younger sister Tess (Malin Akerman) comes to town. Jane silently watches George fall for Tess, a manipulative pretender. Worse, Jane may be called upon to plan their wedding. Meanwhile, Kevin tries to get Jane's attention and has an idea that may advance his career.

Small Time Crooks

We watched the DVD "Small Time Crooks."

Synopsis

Dishwasher and small-time criminal Ray (Woody Allen) hits on a plan with his partners in crime to re-open a local pizza place and dig a tunnel to the safe for the bank down the street. His wife, Frenchy (Tracey Ullman) can't cook pizza but does make great cookies so that's what they sell. While the tunnellers get lost underground, the cookie operation really takes off and the team find themselves rich business people. The other local money isn't quite ready to accept them.

The Promotion

I watched the DVD "The Promotion." Filmed in Chicago.

Synopsis
At 33, Doug Stauber (Seann William Scott) is ready for a promotion. He's married to Jen (Jenna Fischer), wants to buy a house, and is assistant manager at a Chicago supermarket that's building a new store in his neighborhood. His boss, Scott (Fred Armisen) tells him he's a shoe-in to manage the new store and then a rival appears - Richard Wehlner (John C. Reilly) transferred from Canada. Richard has a deeper resume than Doug and is really nice. He has a wife and daughter and wants the promotion to manager also. Doug doesn't know how to behave toward Richard - as a friend, a colleague, a competitor, or an enemy? Richard, it seems, has demons and a past, but with the help of motivational tapes, he's determined to succeed.

Hurricane Punch

I finished reading "Hurricane Punch" by Tim Dorsey.

ABOUT THE BOOK

Welcome to another typical summer in Florida, the Season of the Storms. Serge Storms. That loveable, under-under-medicated dispenser of truth, justice and trivia is back with a vengeance. And not a weirdness-laced moment too soon. His cherished home state is about to take a beating, and from far more than the way-too-routine conga line of hurricanes bearing down on the peninsula. Bodies have begun turning up at a disturbing rate, even for Florida, and it looks like a brutal serial killer is on the loose, which highly offends Serge’s moral sensibilities and he vows nothing will stop him in his juggernaut to make All Things Right ... except if he gets bored or distracted by a cool souvenir or ... where were we? But his path won’t be obstacle free. Agent Mahoney has picked up the scent. The obsessive criminal profiler -- just released from a mental hospital for getting too deep inside Serge’s head – is convinced there is no second killer. Serge’s personality is simply splitting from decades of burning with incandescent zest for everything under the sun. Then there’s Coleman, whose triathelete approach to the sport of poly-abuse binging just might derail the mission more than the entire police community put together. The pace picks up. Wind howls, TV reporters fly around the beach, the Party Parrot parties, questions mount: Who’s stalking Tampa Bay’s most sensitive journalist? Did Tom Cruise go too easy on Matt Lauer? Do multiple orgasms improve storm tracking? Why is the feeding-tube guy so quiet? Will Molly ruin our anti-hero’s dreams of playing the electric guitar better than Clapton? ... All of which ultimately leads to the most pressing question of the new millennium on everyone’s lips: What would Serge do?

Ironman

I watched the DVD "Ironman"

Synopsis

Playboy and genius Tony Stark (Robert Downey Jr.) is the successful CIO of the Stark Industries, a weapon company founded by his father. His second in command is Obadiah Stane (Jeff Bridges) who worked with his father, and his loyal and professional secretary is Pepper Potts (Gwyneth Paltrow) who has a crush on Tony. While in Afghanistan to demonstrate the ultimate Jericho missile developed by his company, his military convoy is attacked and Tony is seriously wounded on his chest and kidnapped by a group of rebels that wants him to assemble a missile for their use. Tony stays with his abductors for three months and develops a powerful metallic armor to escape from the cave where he is arrested. He decides to stop manufacturing weapons in his company under the protest of Obadiah, and dedicates his time to improve the armor, manufacturing it with gold and titanium and installing a propulsion system to fly. Pepper discovers that Tony was betrayed by Obadiah, who is using Tony's data to build prototype armor for him, transforming it in the ultimate weapon.

Into The Woods

We went to the the Hinsdale South High School Production of "Into The Woods." It was based on a book by James Lapine and the music and lyrics were by Stephen Sondheim. The kids did a great job. Three of the cast members were friends of our boys - Little Red Riding Hood - Bianca Minniti, Rapunzel's Prince - Terry Bell and one of the townfolk - Ryan Kent. We had dinner at T.G.I. Friday's before going to the play.

Giordano's Pizza

We went to Giordano's Pizza in downtown Downer's Grove to celebrate our birthdays. We had our usual a large stuffed mushroom and cheese pizza. Yum.

Rough Weather

I finished reading "Rough Weather" by Robert B. Parker.

ABOUT THE BOOK


Heidi Bradshaw is wealthy, beautiful, and well connected and she needs Spenser’s help. In a most unlikely request, Heidi, a notorious gold digger recently separated from her latest husband, recruits the Boston P.I. to accompany her to her private island, Tashtego, for her daughter’s wedding. Spenser is unsure of what his role as personal bodyguard will entail, but he consents when it’s decided that he can bring his beloved Susan Silverman along. It should be a straightforward job for Spenser: show up for appearances, have some drinks, and spend some quality time with Susan. Yet when his old nemesis Rugar, the Gray Man arrives on Tashtego, Spenser realizes that something is amiss. With a hurricane-level storm brewing outside, the Gray Man jumps into action, firing fatal shots into the crowd of wedding guests and kidnapping the bride–but Spenser knows that the sloppy guns-for-hire abduction is not Rugar’s style. Unable to prevent the attack, Spenser will stop at nothing to recover the kidnapped bride and figure out how the Gray Man is connected. It’s up to Spenser to decide who the real enemy is . . . before more people end up dead.

Made Of Honor

We watched the DVD "Made Of Honor."

Synopsis

Made of Honor revolves around Tom (Patrick Dempsey) and Hannah (Michelle Monaghan), who have been platonic friends for 10 years. He's a serial dater, while she wants marriage but hasn't found Mr. Right. Just as Tom is starting to think that he is relationship material after all, Hannah gets engaged. When she asks Tom to be her "maid" of honor, he reluctantly agrees just so he can attempt to stop the wedding and woo her.

The 2009 Masque & Gavel Talent Show

We went to the "2009 Masque & Gavel Talent Show" at our son's high school after my oldest son's track meet. His band - Neon 10 was the closing act. We sat in the second row and he played his bass right in front of us.

The program:

White Rice played "That's What You Get" by Paramore
Colleen DeRosa sang "What The World Needs Now" by Burt Bacharach
DGS Carribbean Soul Dance Troupe did a dance mix
Duo - Jordyn Stapleton & Jen Boylen sang "Put Your Records On" by Corinne Bailey Rae
Amish Dudeja did a drum solo accompanied by Michael Holloway on guitar
Keotta House sang "Tears Drops On My Guitar" by Taylor Swift
Heavy Water played "Fortunate Son" by Creedance Clearwater Revival
Cailee Madden sang "Bring Me Down" by Miranda Lambert
Crystal Terry did slam poetry "Prisoner Of Words" by Alicia Keys
Minh Tran did an original composition guitar solo "Chocolate & Tea"
Deadline did a dance mix
Michael Holloway did an original composition "Resolve"
Jenni McCarthy sang and did a piano solo by Sarah McLachan
Merril Idiyalil did a traditional dance to "Aja Nachle"

Neon 10 played an original composition "Polar Bears"

















Josh Durham & Mike Allison sang "1985" by Bowling For Soup
Mike Holloway & Kevin Worazek sang "DGS I Love You"

The show lasted about 1 1/2 hours. They did a great job. There's a lot of talent at the high school. I expect to see some of these names become famous in the future.

Definitely Maybe

We watched the DVD "Definitely Maybe."

Synopsis

Romantic comedy: Will Hayes (Ryan Reynolds), a 30-something Manhattan dad is in the midst of a divorce when his 10 year old daughter, Maya (Abigail Breslin), starts to question him about his life before marriage. Maya wants to know absolutely everything about how her parents met and fell in love. Will's story begins in 1992, as a young, starry-eyed aspiring politician who moves to New York from Wisconsin in order to work on the Clinton campaign. For Maya, Will relives his past as a idealistic young man learning the ins and outs of big city politics, and recounts the history of his romantic relationships with three very different women. On the campaign, Will's best buddy is Russell McCormack. They not only have similar political aspirations, they share the same type of girl problems, too. Will hopelessly attempts a "PG" version of his story for his daughter ad changes the names so Maya has to guess who he finally married. Is her mother Will's college sweetheart, the dependable girl next-door Emily (Elizabeth Banks)? Is she his longtime best friend and confidante, apolitical April (Isla Fisher)? Or is she the free-spirited but ambitious journalist (Rachel Weisz)? As Maya puts together the pieces of her dad's romantic puzzle, she begins to understand that love is not so simple or easy. And as Will tells her his tale, Maya helps him to understand that it's definitely never too late to go back and maybe even possible to find a happy ending.

Picture Perfect

We watched the DVD "Picture Perfect."

Synopsis

Kate (Jennifer Aniston) is working on a career at Mercer Advertising, but she is passed up for promotion because she is 'not stable enough', still being single and having no ties to the company. She makes up a story about being engaged to Nick (Jay Mohr), a guy whom she just met at a friend's wedding. All seems to work out well for Kate. She even gets the attention of a colleague (Kevin Bacon) she had always wanted, but then events take a dramatic turn forcing her to introduce her alleged fiancee to her boss.

Plum Spooky

I finished reading "Plum Spooky" by Janet Evanovich.

ABOUT THE BOOK

According to legend, the Jersey Devil prowls the Pine Barrens and soars above the treetops in the dark of night. As eerie as this might seem, there are things in the Barrens that are even more frightening and dangerous. And there are monkeys. Lots of monkeys. Wulf Grimoire is a world wanderer and an opportunist who can kill without remorse and disappear like smoke. He's chosen Martin Munch, boy genius, as his new business partner, and he's chosen the Barrens as his new playground. Munch received his doctorate degree in quantum physics when he was twenty-two. He's now twenty-four, and while his brain is large, his body hasn't made it out of the boys' department at Macy's. Anyone who says good things come in small packages hasn't met Munch. Wulf Grimoire is looking for world domination. Martin Munch would be happy if he could just get a woman naked and tied to a tree. Bounty hunter Stephanie Plum has Munch on her most-wanted list for failure to appear in court. Plum is the all-American girl stuck in an uncomfortable job, succeeding on luck and tenacity. Usually she gets her man. This time she gets a monkey. She also gets a big guy named Diesel. Diesel pops in and out of Plum's life like birthday cake - delicious to look at and taste, not especially healthy as a steady diet, gone by the end of the week if not sooner. He's an uber bounty hunter with special skills when it comes to tracking men and pleasing women. He's after Grimoire, and now he's also after Munch. And if truth were told, he wouldn't mind setting Stephanie Plum in his crosshairs. Diesel and Plum hunt down Munch and Grimoire, following them into the Barrens, surviving cranberry bogs, the Jersey Devil, a hair-raising experience, sand in their underwear, and, of course . . . monkeys.

You Don't Mess With Zohan

I watched the DVD "You Don't Mess With Zohan."

Synopsis

Zohan (Adam Sandler), a top Israeli commando, fakes his own death in order to pursue his dream: becoming a hairstylist in New York. Though he wants to put his life of counter-terrorism behind him, he quickly finds that it is not so easy to escape one's roots. As enemies old and new try to take him out, they will all come to learn the same thing: you don't mess with the Zohan.

Sex In The City

We watched the DVD "Sex In The City."

Synopsis


After moving in together in an impossibly beautiful New York apartment, Carrie Bradshaw (Sarah Jessica Parker) and Mr. Big (Chris Noth) make a rather arbitrary decision to get married. The wedding itself proves to be anything but a hasty affair. The guest list quickly blooms from 75 to 200 guests, and Carrie's simple, label-less wedding gown gives way to an enormous creation that makes her look like a gigantic cream puff. An upcoming photo spread in Vogue puts the event which will take place at the New York Public Library squarely in the public eye. Meanwhile, Carrie's girlfriends - Samantha the sexpot (Kim Cattrall); Charlotte the sweet naïf (Kristin Davis); and Miranda the rigid perfectionist (Cynthia Nixon) could not be happier. At least, they couldn't be happier for Carrie. Charlotte still has the unrealized hope of getting pregnant. Samantha is finding a loving, committed relationship more grueling than she could have imagined. Miranda unwittingly lets her own unhappiness created when Steve (David Eigenberg) admits to cheating on her just once spoil Carrie's. After a heated encounter with Steve, she happens to spot Mr. Big and tells him he's crazy to get married. She's really only thinking of her own marriage. But her angry remark gets Mr. Big to thinking.

Atomic Lobster

I finished reading "Atomic Lobster" by Tim Dorsey.

ABOUT THE BOOK

Why is everyone rushing to flee Tampa on a cruise ship to hell? Serge is back with a bullet, torn between homicide and souvenirs. So is Coleman, torn between getting hammered and getting more hammered. Then there's good ol' Jim Davenport, the E-Team, the Diaz Brothers, and Johnny Vegas, the Accidental Virgin, cranking up the fevered action as the pot boils over on a street called Lobster Lane. It's reunion time in the Sunshine State, and we're not just talking the family jamboree of that blood-soaked criminal clan, the McGraws, whose nastiest, meanest member is finally released from prison and heads south bent on revenge. On top of it all, the government is covering up a growing list of mysterious victims across Florida who may or may not be connected to a nefarious plot being hatched against national security. But wait! There's more on the horizon! Who is the oddly familiar femme fatale named Rachael? Is Serge wrong that guns, drugs, and strippers don't mix? What sets the Non-Confrontationalists off on a rampage? What finally brings Coleman and Lenny together? Will they succeed in building the biggest bong ever? And can Serge surf a rogue wave to victory?

I Love You Man

We went to the pre-screening of "I Love You Man" at Hollywood Blvd. The line for the screening was the longest I've ever seen it and we ended up sitting in the front row. It was a hilarious movie.

Synopsis

Peter Klaven (Paul Rudd)is a somewhat successful real estate agent who, upon getting engaged to the woman of his dreams, Zooey, (Rashida Jones), discovers, to his dismay and chagrin, that he has no male friends close enough to serve as his Best Man. Peter immediately sets out to rectify the situation, embarking on a series of bizarre and awkward man-dates, before meeting Sydney Fife (Jason Segel), a charming, opinionated man with whom he instantly bonds. But the closer the two men get, the more Peters relationship with Zooey suffers, ultimately forcing him to choose between his fiancée and his new found bro, in a story that comically explores what it truly means to be a friend.

Clerks II

We watched the DVD "Clerks II"

Synopsis

A calamity at Dante and Randall's shops sends them looking for new horizons - but they ultimately settle at Mooby's, a fictional fast-food restaurant. Free from his dead-end job and stuck in a new one, Dante begins to break free of his rut, planning to move away with his clingy fiancé. Dante is ready to leave the horrors of minimum-wage New Jersey behind, but Randal always the more hostile of the two starts to become overwhelmed by his own rancor.

Snow Cake

I watched the DVD "Snow Cake."

Synopsis

Alex Hughes (Alan Rickman), an ex-convict, is on a road trip to Winnipeg to see an old friend. Along the way, he meets the annoying, but vivacious, Vivienne Freeman (Emily Hampshire) who manages to bum a ride with him. Just as he begins to warm to this eccentric girl, Alex's vehicle is in a serious automobile accident that kills Vivienne. After his meeting with the police, Alex decides to speak with Vivienne's mother. Upon arrival at her home, Alex discovers that the mother, Linda (Sigourney Weaver), is a highly functional autistic woman who convinces him to stay long to take out the garbage the day after the funeral he agrees to arrange. In those few days, Alex discovers new friends and learns more about the uniqueness of Linda even as he struggles to come to terms with his own grief.